Am I Going To Be Okay? Weathering the Storms of Mental Illness, Addiction and
Author: Debra Whittam
Publisher: Turning Point International
Genre: Memoir/Women’s Psychology/Applied Psychology
story with a universal message. Ms. Whittam traces her history in the form of
stories about her all too human, and sometimes unhinged family; she throws a rope
to the little girl living there, and in adulthood, is able to pull her out to
safety, bit by bit.
time, a time before therapy was acceptable, 12 steps unimaginable and harsh
words, backhands and even harsher silences can be spun to appear almost normal.
She writes of a mother who would not or could not initiate love nor give it
without condition, and a father, damn near heroic at times, abusive at others,
a survivor with his head down and his sleeves rolled up.
tough but sensitive objectivity necessary to untangle the shame from the
source. She speaks of the people that affected her life so deeply with an
understanding of their time and place in American culture; a family not far
removed from immigrant roots when men carried their own water, emoted misplaced
anger, and with fresh socks and food found on the trail, were confident,
unflinching and at that same time tragical- ly failing to the little ones they
responded by numbing, running and gunning. Alcohol gave her hope, soothed a
crushed soul for a time and wrecked her on a train, until finally she had the
courage to accept it wasn’t working for her anymore. It was time to stop
drinking and take inventory and accountability. It was time to accept, forgive
and move forward. She healed where she was broken.
teaches us the difference between just surviving and surviving well, the
importance of shared introspection and a careful eye on the wake we leave
behind in our actions. Her story is a guide to surviving abuse and addiction.
It is also about witnessing and dealing with the shrinking faculties of aging
parents in the unavoidable circle of life. Finally, she offers a realistic
sense of hope, forgiveness and a life we can shake hands with.
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recovery from alcoholism, I saw one of her graduate school psychology books on
her bookshelf. It was sitting alongside many of her self-help books which I had
borrowed during the past year. I read several hoping to find a cure from my
irrepressible anxiety that I had previously drunk away. I imagined the wordy
text was far from my ability to comprehend as I was at that time only able to
retain small bits of information. I asked my therapist if I could borrow that
college text titled “Human Growth and Development.” I read it from cover to
cover within a short amount of time and surprisingly, was able to digest and
retain it. I had to quit doubting my ability. Being hard on myself was no
longer the answer. I wanted more.
of the same name. I wanted to see if I could retain enough material to pass a
higher level learning class. I loved it and I got an A.
numb myself through copious amounts of alcohol, I started doing what I wanted
to do with my life. Encountering the self-doubt I had always carried within me
became the guidepost by which I continued to prove my “what ifs” unnecessary in
order to keep myself safe.
all who struggle with being frozen in fear of “what if.” This book may trigger
emotions that have been shoved down so far they might not have a clear story to
them yet. It might trigger memories of resentments, regrets or painful unhealed
episodes of your life. These moments may have happened long, long ago or may
have been more recent. We go back into the past to find answers. The idea is
not to stay there long, but to find healing through understanding the ‘why’ of
it. Then begin our process of learning to self-sooth and love ourselves.
Nothing is going to happen that you can’t handle. Nothing.
anything outside of that small world. I had no foundation to stand on as a
spring-board toward finding out who I really was, so I joined a 12-Step group.
The beauty of being in a community of recovery, from whatever we might be
working on, brings connection. at is what I needed so badly.
that ignites your longing for more. I urge you to find your own path of being
okay by whatever non-mood altering way that makes sense to you; even, or
especially, if it is unfamiliar to you. In writing this book, I intended to
show how we can all go through our fears and do “it” anyway, whatever “it” is.
ourselves. Thee “how” of being okay is within these pages and within yourself.
Stop listening to the repeated echoes of old messages in your head, messages
like “You’ve done it again,” “You aren’t good enough,” “You should just give
up.” These messages cause you to doubt yourself. Instead, listen to the other
voice inside which says, “You can do this,” “There is a way.” Don’t ignore it.
Don’t push it away. Don’t argue with it. That voice is there, even if you can’t
hear it and I am here to help you find it. I look forward to hearing you say,
“I AM going to be okay.”
therapist in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania,
who specializes in addiction, anxiety and depression, grief and loss. Whittam
is passionate about her work in all areas of her specialties, especially
addiction. Working in a detox unit for over three years before beginning her
own private practice, Whittam realized, while counseling patients in the life
and death arena of the detox unit, how much the loss of a beloved through death
or a relationship impacted those struggling with addiction.
memories, stories and professional insights to remind us that the most
important relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. She splits her time
between Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania,
the Adirondack Mountains in upstate New
York and Paris, France.
I Going To Be Okay? Weathering the Storms of Mental Illness, Addiction and
Grief is her first book.